I had a dog. Suki was her name. Suki the Wonderdog.
Suki was a shelter pup. 100% mutt. She looked like a small, short-haired Golden. She chose me, in a manner I will never forget.
I’m keeping that for myself at the moment. The point is: she chose me. I really had no choice.
Thirty-five pounds of fiercely protective, jealous female, everyone loved her.
Suki pre-dated beautiful and charming bride. It took years before Suki truly accepted BCB. Years.
When the eldest LA was born, Suki was not pleased. Suki became snappish.
It only took one incident. Former BCB had been attacked by a dog when she was very young. She retains the scars to this day. It was not going to happen to our newborn LA.
Suki left us, going to live with a friend on a farm with a score of horses and several score acres. We visited, baby LA in tow. Suki lived well, to the end of her days.
When Suki left our home, I was shattered. But I held it. I was angry, and sad, and disappointed. Part of me blamed the former BCB. Part of me blamed me.
And all of this happened during a time when I did not much like me. That’s not entirely truth. I think I hated me, then. I was in what should have been a happy point in my life, and I was miserable. And then my dog left. I was a wreck. But I held it. Sort of. But not really.
When Suki passed, I was shattered. But I held it. I was angry, and sad, and disappointed. I blamed me. And at no point did I allow myself to feel it. Oh, I know I held those emotions, but I didn’t feel them. And when I say “shattered”, its retrospective. I was. But I didn’t let myself be it.
Whenever I would begin to think about it or feel about it, I pushed it away. I wouldn’t let anyone bring it up...at all. I shut those doors in people’s faces. Nope. Not here. Not now. Maybe never.
Years passed. Eldest grew. Youngest was born.
Eldest started it: “can we get a dog?”
Youngest was two. “No.”
Every day the same. Some flavor of: “can we get a dog?”
Now, when I write “every day”, I am not exaggerating.
Eldest is stubborn in a particular way. And she’s clever. And she’s relentless. And if you know her at all, you know that once she had decided a thing, that thing will happen. It may take years, but it will happen.
Two years later. Deep January. I’m in the shower. I’m thinking about Suki. I’m thinking about family. I’m not super-happy with my home-life. Something is missing. Many things, probably, and I’m musing.
I emerge, dry, dress, and walk down the long hall into the kitchen. I walk in and announce: “I’m ready.”
Eldest gets it.
“I’m ready to get a dog.”
There’s excitement; I temper it.
“I’m ready to get a dog, but I think we should wait until the end of the summer.”
I knew we would be traveling quite a bit, and that with changing schools and travel, and a lot of other uncertainty, I thought it prudent to plan ahead and wait until we were settling into the school year’s rhythm. So, I was ready, but not immediately, and I wanted us all to take our time to prepare for the commitment.
Youngest’s birthday was around the corner, and her birthday party would be the following weekend. We had already planned to go to the party store to get her party stuff. As it happened, there’s one of those large, corporate pet stores next to the party store. Perfect. BCB could go into the party store, and the LAs and I could hang in the pet store.
It’s like I had planned it...or something.
We went. BCB went into the party store; the LAs and I went to the pet store. They were excited throughout the ride over. They nearly collapsed in anticipation when there was an adoption event in front of the store. A dozen or more dogs were out with their handlers, seeking their forever homes.
It was chaos. Chaos.
Shapes, sizes, types, and personalities assaulted our senses. Barking, whining, whimpering, growling--a cacophony of delighted and desperate dogs made their presences known.
There. Just over there.
He was a big boy. And quiet. Strong, clearly. Tentative, somewhat. Not unfriendly, but not super-friendly. Interesting.
We looked over all the dogs and met a few, and one had caught my attention, and the girls had their favorites. And there was this one boy, who was hardly a boy--he was six. And he was interesting. And interested.
We gravitated, the LAs and I, toward him. We learned a bit. Rescued from a kill shelter when they were actually there to rescue another. He was a pit-mix in a county that killed pit-mixes. They got him out of town.
Something about his manner had captured their attention. As it had ours.
Can a dog have gravitas?
I saw BCB leave the party store with her hunted-gathered bags. I intercepted her on the way to our minivan. “There’s someone you need to meet.”
She gave me a look. One of those looks. I shrugged, rolled my eyes...something to cast myself into innocence. And I failed. She agreed to come over.
I sat down beside him. BCB was walking over. From thirty yards away, he saw her.
And that was that.
He made his choice.
We had no choice.
He had found his forever home.
When he finally came to us, it was in the first hours of a multi-day snowstorm. They dropped him at our home just as the heavy snow started. His first night, he slept in the LAs’ room. A pit mix. Even with BCB’s history, she knew it was the right thing to do. I was terrified. She was not.
A few days later a dear friend paid us a visit. He petted and hugged and commented how bad his original name was. Then he said: “Zeus”. We hallooed. It was right. It was perfect. He was Zeus.
Zeus didn’t like me. That’s OK, I didn’t much like me either. I knew that. He knew that. I knew he knew that. And it played out thusly: I would enter a room, and he would leave it.
Sometimes he would enter a room, and I would leave it.
For months, this happened.
We were roommates who didn't get along. We suffered each other’s presences in silence, barely tolerating each other, but living with it.
BCB and the LA’s? Fabulous. He was theirs and they were his, and heaven help the stranger who dared knock on our door. He was not a barker. He rarely vocalized. But when someone new knocked, his beachball-sized chest would swell, and thunder would follow.
Thor was a piker; this was Zeus. And his thunder shook the house.
But if he knew you, he was fine. Never fawning, he would be friendly.
You knew he loved you, if he sat on your foot.
You knew he adored you, if he stood on your foot.
I had to travel for work, and I spent a week on the West Coast. My return flight landed late, and I got home after midnight. I approached the house, knowing Zeus would be alarmed. I tried to stay quiet.
I fitted the key into the door, worked the lock, opened the latch, and cracked the door open.
Zeus was standing there.
He looked at me. I looked at him. He came to me and nuzzled my hand.
Shocked, I scratched him behind the ears.
He turned to his side.
He stood on my foot.
He made his choice. He welcomed me home.
I had no choice.
Time passed. BCB and I separated.
Zeus remained steady through it all. He never took sides.
For the LAs, he was always there.
For BCB, he was always there.
For me, he was always there. He helped me like me.
For me, he was always there. He helped me like me.
And that gave me great comfort.
I was leaving the home, but he would be there to protect them. Sure, with his bark, but more with his being. With his gravity. Just...
Just being Zeus.
Separation became divorce became a new home for the LAs and for Zeus. He gave me great comfort. I knew they were safe as long as he was around to protect them.
|My final road trip with Zeus, Thanksgiving 2015.|
And when I would drop off the LAs, or pick them up, or visit, Zeus would greet me. He would purr in the way of large dogs, with that deep, rumbling throaty vibe that resounds just above your hearing threshold.
And he would stand on my foot.
Zeus’s decline was shockingly rapid. He was twelve, and he had had myriad minor issues since we met him. His knees were bad, as was his hip. He lived with chronic pain. But he was strong--stoic in a way that inspired me. When my cancer and chemotherapy gripped me, making every moment an exercise in agony, I gritted my teeth and sweated through it. When I visited him during this period, I saw it in him. It saddened me. I think he knew. He was Zeus. And he made me stronger.
BCB made the decision. I do not envy her. But it was the right decision, and I am proud of her for having the strength to make the decision.
The LAs were devastated. And as I type this (mere hours after his passing), they are mourning.
At some point I started crying. I didn't recognize it at first. I needed to blow my nose, and I realized that tears have been pouring. Long before I registered my feelings, I was crying.
I'm crying still.
BCB and I were there for the procedure. They shaved his arm, inserted an IV, and we had our final moments with him.
As I sat with him, hand on his chest, I looked at his IV, and I thought of my chemo-port.
When the doctor came in with the syringes, filled with their colored fluids, I thought of the nurses who came to me at all hours with my chemo.
As she pushed the plunger of the first syringe--the morphine and valium injection--I remembered the chemical warmth, and taste, and flow of medicines as they poured into my body.
As I felt his tense body relax, I remembered my fever dreams, and the peace of letting go.
She inserted the final vial and depressed the plunger.
I watched the pink fluid disappear.
I felt his breathing stop
I felt his heart cease.
I felt his warmth evaporate.
I felt him...go.
On February 6th, 2016, Zeus passed peacefully.
May he rest in peace.